Tuesday, December 24, 2013

New Additions to Our Family

We recently added three new members to our family.  Ray, Lucy and Molly showed up in our back yard in early November.  I fed them, so of course they stuck around.  After unsuccessfully trying to find homes for them, we decided to adopt them.  They are approximately six months old and were very healthy when we found them.  They were also very clean.  In fact, the vet only found fleas on one of them.  

Ray is the ringleader and the only male of the bunch.  He is very curious and gets into lots of trouble.  He enjoys jumping on the table, climbing the Christmas tree, and digging the dirt out of my house plants.  He likes to eat and spends a lot of time in the kitchen.  The vet thinks he's going to be a very big boy when he grows up.

Lucy is the jealous one.  If she hears one of us talking to any of the other cats, she runs into the room to get some of the attention for herself.  She's a sweet girl who likes to cuddle, but she does have an issue with biting our elbows and toes.  

Molly is the shy kitten of the bunch.  When she first came inside, she spent the first ten days hiding behind our couch.  She would run out to eat and use the litter box, and then she would run back to hide.  Once she learned to trust us, she became the sweetest one of the bunch.

We're having a lot of fun with them.  They're very social around us, but when company comes, they hide under the bed or behind the couch.  Princess tends to ignore them, but she does let them know that she's the boss from time to time.  Nikolas loves the kittens, but they find him to be a little too loud.  Molly will cuddle with him, but the others typically run away when they see him coming.

Monday, November 18, 2013

Fundraiser to Support Nina's Kidney Donation

I'm really enjoying being an independent consultant for Tastefully Simple.  I get to play with food, try new recipes, and spend time with friends.  How fun!!  I also have the ability to help others through Tastefully Simple fundraisers. 

Let me tell you about the person that I'm helping with this particular fundraiser.  Her name is Nina Thompson and she's our case manager at Children's House International.  When our former agency went out of business in the middle of our adoption, Nina offered to take on their Bulgaria cases so we could all continue with our adoptions without many delays or extra expenses.  She made the transition as quick and easy as possible, and she's been a great support for all of her families both during the process and after the children come home.  She has a passion for helping orphans and works so hard to help them find their forever families.

So why am I trying to raise funds for Nina?  This amazing woman is donating one of her kidneys to a former Bulgarian orphan whom she helped bring home earlier this year.  You can read all about Gavin and help his family at http://www.gofundme.com/Gavins-kidney-fund.  Nina started the screening process back in August and the transplant will take place soon.  She will have many expenses associated with travel back and forth to where Gavin lives, medical expenses, and time away from work while she recovers.  All commission earned from this fundraiser will go directly to Nina's fund (http://www.gofundme.com/58bycg).  The hostess benefits (free food!!) will be sent to Nina to give her family easy meal options to prepare while she recovers. 

The holidays are coming up and Tastefully Simple products make great gifts.  Why not get some shopping done while helping Nina at the same time?  To order online, please use this link so I know the order is for Nina's fundraiser:

Nina's Fundraiser

The fundraiser will be running through the end of the month, so be sure to order soon.  Thanks so much for your support!!

You can follow Nina's journey here: http://alittlepieceofmysoul.wordpress.com/.

Wednesday, November 6, 2013

Are you ready for some football?

Hey Colts Fans!!  Want a chance to win tickets to the Colts vs. Titans game on December 1st AND help and orphan from Eastern Europe find his family?  My friends Craig and Viviane are trying to establish an agency grant for this little boy so that a family who decides to adopt him will have some financial help in covering the high costs.  This little boy has CP and is currently wheelchair-bound, but he is very joyful and bright and tells his caregivers that some day he will walk.  Please visit their blog for more information.
 

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Tastefully Simple

I'm sharing this here for those of you who aren't connected to me via FaceBook.  I'm having an online kickoff party to celebrate my new Tastefully Simple business. I became a consultant because I fell in love with the products during our adoption fundraiser earlier this year and am hoping to raise funds to help cover our extra adoption expenses. This will be a Mystery Hostess event, so for every $10.00 that you spend, your name will be entered into a drawing to win some free products.  This event will end on Sunday, October 20th.

Use this link to visit my website for the Mystery Hostess party: https://www.tastefullysimple.com/secure/pomm/SpecialInvitation.aspx?pxid=3535206&key=da351198-8dce-47d8-a211-35a8262a940f.

I'll also be hosting an Open House in December where you can stop by and try some goods and do some holiday shopping. If you are interested in hosting a party (either online or in person) in October or November to help me complete my challenge, please contact me to set up a date. Thanks for your support!!


The Perfect 10 Collection

Friday, October 11, 2013

810 Days


810 days.

2 years, 2 months, 2 weeks and 5 days. 

This is the amount of time that Nikolas lived in Bulgaria as an orphan.  It's the amount of time that he was without his parents.  It's the number of days that we weren't there to take care of him.

As of today (October 11, 2013) Nikolas has been with us for 811 days.  He's been with us for longer than he's been without us.  He's been our son for longer than he was an orphan.

So thankful that we were chosen to be the parents of this amazing little boy.

Nikolas Then
Nikolas Now

Tuesday, October 8, 2013

Therapy Update

Community Physical Therapy and Rehab opened their new center at Stones Crossing in Greenwood in early September.  Our drive time has went from 12 minutes to 32 minutes each way, but Nikolas has really enjoyed all of the fun new things that are available for him.  Because he is in the afternoon preschool class, we had to switch to morning therapy sessions.  There is a quiet area for speech therapy that is away from the others areas and a fun sensory gym where the therapists can work on motor skills with the children.

With the change in his schedule, he did have to change to a new Occupational Therapist.  He enjoys working with his new therapist and is doing very well.  She retested him in early August and the results were absolutely amazing.  When he began therapy in September 2012 he tested at a 15-month level (5th percentile) in the grasping area and at a 23-month level (5th percentile) in the visual motor integration area.  At the time of the test he was 51 months old performing at a 55-month level (63rd percentile) in the grasping area and at a 49-month level (50th percentile) in the visual motor integration area.  With the new sensory gym he is able to work on body awareness and some upper body strengthening, which also helps with his gross motor skills. The plan is to wrap up his private occupational therapy at the end of the year.

He has also been making great gains in his gross motor skills during his physical therapy sessions. We have been working on improving his range of motion and exercising to improve his low muscle tone, as well as working on his gross motor skills.  He is tested every three months to see where he is.  As of the most recent test, he is in the 37th percentile for his age.  I don't exactly where he was when he started therapy last fall, but I'd guess his gross motor skills were less developed than his fine motor skills. Since he had surgery to correct his bilateral club foot, we've also had to work through those issues.  He had a huge growth spurt over the summer which caused his heel cords to become tight again and really impact his range of motion.  We've been doing a lot of stretching and are slowly getting him back to where he should be.  Our goal is to finish private physical therapy by the summer of 2014.  He's doing a great job!!

Speech continues to be his toughest area, but considering he only used a few words regularly at this time last year, it's obvious that he is greatly improving in that area, too.  His vocabulary is expanding daily.  Although it's often difficult to understand what he's saying, he knows so many words and tries his best to communicate.  He uses two and three word phrases when speaking now.  He will attempt to repeat all words and short phrases during our speech activity time.  His Speech Therapist is targeting a specific sound each week and we focus on that sound on home to help him improve.  Not only does he have a severe speech delay, he also has difficulty making his sounds correctly so that others understand him.  We're getting there, but we'll definitely be working with Mary for a very long time.  It's a good thing he likes her so much!!

I've been lucky to be able to sit in on his speech and physical therapy sessions from the beginning.  I love that his therapists include me in the sessions and show me things to work on at home.  He is really blossoming with the extra help.  It's so exciting to see!!

Saturday, September 28, 2013

Adoption Update

Things are moving forward with our adoption process, just in a different direction than we had originally planned.  Our dossier is registered with the MOJ and we are in line to receive a referral.  It could take six months or it could take up to three years, but we know the right little boy will come along when the time is right.  We've also been watching the files of waiting children that our agency posts to see if any little guys jump out at us. While we wait we're going to focus on some fundraising to help with the costs of getting our little one home.

If you look on the right side of our blog, you'll see a link to Amazon.  If you are going to order anything through Amazon, please use this link on our blog.  You will still pay the same amount for your purchase, but Amazon will give us a small percentage of what you spend just for clicking through our link.  Don't forget about our link when you start your online holiday shopping!!

Kim and Jason's Amazon Page

I've also decided to become an Independent Consultant for Tastefully Simple.  I fell in love with the products when we had our fundraiser earlier this year and thought this would be a great way to help with some of our adoption expenses.  My kit should arrive in a few days, and I'm excited to get started.  I'm looking for a few folks who would be interested in hosting a party in the month of October to help me get things moving.  If you're interested, let me know.  I'd love to come over to your house and share these yummy products with you and your friends.

www.tastefullysimple.com/web/kvanroekel

Thanks to everyone who has supported us during this tough journey.  It will all be worth it in the end!!

Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Weekend Trip to Michigan City

Last weekend we took a trip up to Michigan City for some fun and relaxation. During the trip we were able to meet up with two different families who share our same connection to adoption.  On Saturday we spent some time with the Haven family.  Nikolas and Calvin both came home from Dobrich in July of 2011.  We started the morning by visiting the Washington Park Zoo, had lunch at Swingbelly's and then spent some time at the beach.  The zoo was a lot smaller than our zoo here at home, but it had some different animals that we enjoyed seeing.


We'd never been up to Lake Michigan and were surprised at how beautiful the beach was.  The water was a bit cool, but the kids didn't complain.  They enjoyed running around and playing with the sand toys.  Nikolas had a great time playing with the kids, and we enjoyed spending time with Chris and Celeste.  We love that Nikolas is able to have friendships with other kids who were adopted from Bulgaria.  I'm sure they'll be more important to him as he gets older.  I'm so glad we had this opportunity to meet up and spend some time together. 

After we left the beach we spent some time in the pool at our hotel.  Nikolas enjoyed splashing around and is starting to get more comfortable in the water.  I think he's about ready for swim lessons.  After some pool time we enjoyed dinner at Texas Corral and then had frozen custard from Culver's for dessert.  After a busy day, we all enjoyed relaxing in the hotel room.

On Sunday we visited the Lighthouse Outlet Mall and did a little shopping.  That afternoon we met our friend Courtney and her daughters for lunch at the Treehouse Cafe.  It was an interesting little restaurant, but it was quiet and the pizza was good.  Nikolas took to the girls very well and enjoyed playing outside in the sand while we chatted.  They are travelling in less than two weeks to meet their little guy, so we had lots to talk about.

After lunch we headed home.  Michigan City is only a few hours away and had plenty of fun things to do.  We'll certainly add it to our list of weekend getaway destinations.      




Tuesday, July 30, 2013

Two Years Ago...

Two years ago, we boarded a plane in Sofia and brought our new son Nikolas home to the United States.  On July 30, 2011, he became a US citizen when we landed in Washington DC.  He was very tiny and had the skills of an infant/young toddler.  He was unsteady on his feet and still ate baby food.  He didn't know how to play and he spoke no words.  Watching him become the little boy he was meant to be has been an amazing experience.

Nikolas is a typical four-year-old little boy.  At 32 pounds, he's still a tiny little guy, but he's got a huge personality.  He's one of the friendliest kids I have ever met.  He brings so much joy to our lives.  He continues to improve his motor and speech skills through weekly OT, PT and SLP sessions.  Tomorrow he'll be returning to school for his second year of developmental preschool.  He loves school and his teachers speak highly of him. 

 He loves going to the zoo, playing on his swingset, going for walks, doing art projects, helping around the house, playing on his computer and spending time with his family.  He loves all animals and is no longer afraid of large animals such as horses and big dogs.  His favorite television shows are Max and Ruby, Peppa Pig and Diego. 

Although he's normally a happy little boy, he certainly lets us know if he's not pleased with something.  He does have a bit of a temper and we're working hard on listening and following directions.  His expanding vocabulary definitely helps him express himself instead of just screaming when things don't go his way.

Nikolas has fit right in from the start.  He's a perfect match for our family and we're so happy that we were chosen to be his parents!!

Playing at the Splash Park

Flying the Bulgarian Flag

Eating at Taco Bell

Having Cake for Family Day

Sunday, July 28, 2013

Random Thoughts

Some people may wonder why we grieve for a child that we chose to walk away from.  Although we only spent eight hours with the little guy, we've been looking at his photo every day for nine months.  We thought of him as a member of our family.  We bought a bed for him and had bright red letters spelling his name on the wall in the bedroom he would share with Nikolas.  We had clothes neatly folded in the dresser that we had purchased just for him.  We spent months preparing Nikolas for a little brother.  We had every intention of bringing him home. 

According to the paperwork we received in November, we were preparing ourselves for a little boy with developmental delays and a kidney issue.  We were expecting a little boy who loved playing ball and was just starting to talk.  We were confident that we could help him work through his delays to catch up to his peers.  We have an amazing children's hospital nearby that could help with his kidney problem.  We thought everything was going to be okay. 

To protect his privacy, I won't go into detail about his medical needs, but they were far more severe than we were expecting.  Even though the referral paperwork that we received in June shared more information than we had before, we still didn't hesitate to go visit him.  Sadly, he needs much more care than we are able to give him.  I still have to work 30+ hours a week while balancing Nikolas' school and therapy schedules and taking care of my family.  It just wouldn't have been fair to anyone to proceed with the adoption. 

In my head I know that we made the right decision, but I still can't stop thinking about that precious little boy.  His pictures are no longer displayed in our home and his name has been removed from the bedroom wall.  Even though the visual reminders are gone, I know that I'll never forget about that little boy for as long as I live.

Sunday, July 21, 2013

Heartbroken

It seems like most adoption blogs that I read are positive and show all the good and happy parts of international adoption.  Up until now, our blog has been one of those blogs.  We brought Nikolas home two years ago and things have gone so well.  He attached to us beautifully and is thriving in our family.

Sadly, this adoption will not have a happy ending.

We travelled to Bulgaria last week to meet a handsome 3.5 year old little boy.  We met a tiny little boy with beautiful dark brown eyes and soft brown wavy hair.  He was beautiful.  We were prepared to welcome a little boy into our family with moderate delays.  Based on our experience with Nikolas and our friends' experiences with their children, we've watched little ones come home and do very well with a family and the right therapy/medical care.  The more time we spent with him, the more we realized that he had more than just some moderate delays. 

After sending our observations and some videos to a doctor in Minnesota who specializes in International Adoption, our fears were confirmed.  We were told it was clear that he had significant developmental problems and fits into the autism spectrum.  He will most likely have severe and lifelong disabilities that will require constant care.  He will probably never be independent.  We are not prepared to meet his needs.  Choosing to walk away from that little boy was devastating.  I worry about what will happen to him and pray that his family finds him soon.  We are not the best family for him, and continuing with the adoption wouldn't be fair to anyone.

We are thankful for the support of our agency caseworker and a few of our adoption friends who were there to listen, give us advice, and reassure us that it was okay to make this choice.

We are confident that we have another son in Bulgaria waiting for us, and we will find him when the time is right.  Our dossier will be re-registered with the Bulgarian government, and we will wait patiently for them to issue us a referral.  It could take six months.  It could take two years.  We know it will happen when it's supposed to. 

Thursday, July 18, 2013

Days Three and Four in Shumen

On Wednesday afternoon we went to the Shumen Fortress.  It was an amazing site to see, but it was very hot up there.  Again, more photos will be posted on FaceBook on Sunday.  I will never complain about the speed of my internet at home!!



 


For dinner Gergana suggested that we order pizza.  I love the pizza here.  It's so good!!  Our hotel has a garden area that they use for the restaurant in the summertime, so we asked if it was okay if we ate our pizza out there.  They were fine with it since there were only a couple of other customers around.  It's very quiet at our hotel.

On Thursday morning we had breakfast and spent some time relaxing at our hotel.  We later tried to find a notary to take care of some paperwork, but three out of the four notaries in town were either unwilling or too busy to help us out.  We will try again tomorrow morning.  This afternoon we walked around in the City Center for a bit.  Shumen is a very nice little city.

For dinner we will be visiting the same Bulgarian restaurant that we went to on Tuesday night.  It's very inexpensive and the food is so good.  Lots of delicious veggies covered in Bulgarian white cheese and baked in an oven.  So good!!

On Friday we will return to Sofia, and on Saturday we will be flying back home to Indiana.  We love Bulgaria and can't wait until we get to come back, but right now we're missing our little boy at home.

Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Second Day in Shumen

We started the day off with breakfast in the hotel garden.  They have a nice outdoor garden that they use as their dining area in the summer months.  The weather has been beautiful, so we've enjoyed spending some time out there.  They do play Kelly Clarkson's first CD over and over again, but I suppose it's nice to have a little background music.  This is a very small hotel (with maybe only 12 rooms), so it's never very busy out there.  Sometimes we may see other people, but often it's just the three of us.

After breakfast we went over to the orphanage to spend a couple of hours visiting with the little guy.  We took him some bread today since they told us that he loves bread, so he was pretty happy about that.  During the visit he ate the bread and the container of Gerber puffs and yogurt melts that we took along for him.  He did not cry at all during the visit today and he came right to us.  I do tend to think that he recognizes us as the people who bring the snacks.  He seemed a little calmer today.  We played inside for a bit because they said it was too cold to go outside right away.  He enjoyed playing with the little plastic rings that we took with us.  After he got tired of those, we went outside and played on the swing for a while.  One of the orphanage workers approached us while we were sitting in the gazebo having a snack.  She was picking cherry plums.  Apparently these tress are native to Europe and Asia.  The fruit looks like a cherry, but doesn't really taste like a cherry.  We were told they used the fruit to make a syrup drink for the children.  She filled up a bag with several different varieties of the fruit to bring back to the hotel.  We have green ones, pink ones and red ones.

We dropped off some things at the hotel and took a taxi up the mountain to see the 1300 Years Monument.  It is a massive stone monument that is a tribute to 1300 years of Bulgarian history.  It was very interesting, and we were also able to view the city from the top of the mountain.  I'll post more pictures on FaceBook when we get home.  The internet connection here is very poor, and I can normally only stay connected for a few minutes at time.


Our afternoon visit was only for one hour.  We spent the entire visit in the social worker's office.  H seems much more comfortable around us.  He played with (chewed on) some rubber blocks that we took for him and came over to my purse when he got bored with them.  He dug around until he found the Elmo snack box and brought it over to me.  He stood in front of me until I opened it for him, and he stood and ate the entire container.  He is able to pick the pieces up and feed himself.  He sure does love the Gerber puffs and yogurt melts.  He has some medical concerns and is very delayed (maybe a 9-12 month level).

For dinner we went to a traditional Bulgarian restaurant and it was absolutely amazing.  It is very close to the hotel (down a REALLY steep hill), but it's definitely worth it.  We plan to visit the location again later this week.

Monday, July 15, 2013

First Day in Shumen

We travelled to the orphanage this morning to meet our little guy for the first time.  We also met the director, the social worker, one of his caregivers and his baba.  We chatted with the director for a few minutes while H's caregiver went to get him.  We knew from the referral information that he doesn't do well meeting new people, so we didn't expect him to be too interested in us.  He fussed a bit when we went into the meeting room, so they suggested that we go outside since the weather is so nice right now.  He immediately went to a swing and wanted to swing.  We were told that he would swing for hours if they would let him.  He warmed up to us a bit thanks to the Gerber puffs that we brought along.  His baba and another little guy (who is being adopted by another couple at our agency) came over and joined us for a bit.  At one point H got off the swing and took off after his baba.  He's very delayed, but he proved to us that he is in fact able to walk on his own.  I wish I could share pictures, as he is a very darling little boy with great big brown eyes.

We spent about an hour with him and then had the taxi driver drop us off near the city center.  We were able to exchange money at the bank, check out the area, and pick up some drinks from the grocery store.  The grocery store is up a steep hill.  (I'm from Indiana, so most hills are steep to me.)  We came back to our hotel for a couple of hours before heading back to the orphanage.

We spent one hour with H this afternoon.  We started off outside on the swing, but we had to come inside a few minutes later due to the rain.  We spent the rest of the time in the social worker's office where he enjoyed dancing to the music, eating some Gerber snacks and playing with his toy keys.  He lets us hold him and play with him.  He likes laying on his back and sticking his feet up in the air and then taking off his shoes.  He babbles a lot and makes sounds with his mouth, but he doesn't really say any words.  We'll be spending two hours with him each morning and one hour each afternoon.

This evening we had dinner in the garden with our translator.  The hotel restaurant is very inexpensive and the food is okay.  Gergana found a traditional Bulgarian restaurant that we're going try for dinner one night this week, so that should be fun.

Tomorrow afternoon there is a 70% chance of rain, so we probably won't be doing too much exploring.  On Wednesday or Thursday we will visit the Shumen Fortress and the 1300 Years Monument.  We're trying to see as much as we can while we're here since we can only spend a few hours a day with our little guy.


Getting There is Part of the Fun!!

We finally made it to Bulgaria after a difficult journey.  Our first flight (Indianapolis to Newark) was a little bumpy, but we arrived on time without any issues.  As they started to board our flight to Munich, they realized that the air conditioning was not working on the airplane.  They attempted to fix it, but they later decided that they would need to get a different aircraft.  Our flight was scheduled to leave at 5:30pm.  We were able to board around 8:30pm, and we finally left the ground at 9:30pm.

Prior to leaving Newark we went to the customer service desk, as we knew we were going to miss our connection to Sofia.  The gentleman there confirmed us for the 1:10pm flight to Sofia and told us we would have no issues making that flight, and there wasn't any reason that our luggage wouldn't arrive with us.  I paid the $7.95 for internet access at the airport so I could e-mail Nina at CHI and Violeta in Bulgaria to let them know that we would not be arriving in Sofia on schedule.  Luckily I had Violeta's contact information since we've been corresponding with her since we brought Nikolas home.

We arrived in Munich at 11:00am on Sunday morning (the same time we were originally scheduled to arrive in Sofia).  I was so relieved to have texts from both Violeta (our coordinator in Bulgaria) and Gergana (our awesome translator) letting me know that they were aware that we would not be arriving on time and to contact them when we had more information.  Since the gentleman in Newark had printed out a slip of paper showing that we were confirmed on the 1:10pm flight to Sofia, we let them know were would be arriving in Sofia at 4:00pm.  A nice lady at the gate checked our passports and confirmed that we were on the flight, but we would need to go to the customer service desk to get our boarding passes printed.

The line at the customer service desk was ridiculous.  There was a gentleman checking passports and trying to help folks before they got to the counter, but I'm not sure how much help he really was.  He told us we were not on the 1:10pm flight, but we were on standby for the 7:00pm flight with 6 people ahead of us.  By this time it was getting dangerously close to boarding time for the 1:10pm flight, so we went back to the gate hoping someone could help us.  The lady working at the gate was incredibly nice.  Even though we had the paper showing we were confirmed, she was having trouble getting our tickets.  After a couple of phone calls, we had boarding passes and were good to go.  Turns out there were quite a few empty seats on that flight from Munich to Sofia.

We arrived in Sofia on time and our luggage did, too!!  We were met by Gergana and were out of the airport in less than 30 minutes.  After a really long drive on curvy roads through the mountains, we finally made it to our hotel in Shumen.  My stomach was a little queasy, but I made it just fine.  Maybe it's a good thing I hadn't eaten in a while.  The Bulgarian countryside is beautiful.  It's very green and mountainous with beautiful fields of sunflowers that are as plentiful as corn fields in Indiana.  Every now and then we'd pass through a small village with old brick houses.  I just love it here!!


Saturday, June 29, 2013

2013 Bulgaria Adoptive Families Reunion

Last weekend we attended the Bulgaria Adoptive Families Reunion in Cincinnati, Ohio.  This was our second year to attend the reunion and we have a wonderful time.  We started off our trip with a visit to Jungle Jim's.  We just happened to be there while they were cutting a massive piece of cheese.  The cheese weighed 784 pounds.  We picked up some yummy fruit for the fruit salad we were making for the reunion potluck along with lots of other goodies.  We love Jungle Jim's and stop by every time we're in the area.

We checked into our cabin at Winton Woods at 3:00pm.  Neither of us are campers, so their deluxe cabins are a perfect fit for us.  Our group had reserved 17 of the 18 deluxe and camping cabins at the park, and a lot of other folks had hotel rooms nearby.  Old and new friends started arriving right away and the fun began.  We enjoy getting together with this group because everyone understands the adoption process and the challenges of raising post-institutionalized children.  The kids have a great time playing with each other, too. 

On Friday night we had a nacho bar for dinner followed by an ice cream bar.  It was great catching up with friends that we hadn't seen since last summer and meeting others in person for the first time.

After breakfast on Saturday morning all of the kids participated in activities with others in their same age group.  We helped with the Toddler and Preschool games.  We had story time, played with the parachute and blew lots of bubbles.  The kids had a great time!  After a lunch break we went over to the splash park to cool off from the heat.  Nikolas did better than last year, but he was still a little scared of the spraying water.

After some time at the splash park, Nikolas took a three-hour nap.  The long nap gave us time to get our dish prepared for the potluck and gave him enough energy to stay up until about 11:00pm that night.  On Saturday night there was a potluck, face painting for the kids, cultural time, dancing to Bulgarian music, a campfire, glow sticks and lots of fun.

We said our goodbyes after breakfast on Sunday before heading back home.  We love the reunion and look forward to attending for many more years.  It's great for Nikolas to have friends with a similar background, and we have so much fun spending time with the other parents.  Can't wait to bring our newest addition to next year's event.  A big thanks to Viviane and Yvonne for all of your hard work!!



Sunday, June 9, 2013

Travel Dates!!

Earlier this week we received our official referral and travel dates to go meet our little guy.  We'll be landing in Sofia on my birthday and driving to his town.  It's about a 4.5 hour drive from the airport and is fairly close to the town where Nikolas was born.  We'll spend the week there visiting him.  What a great gift!! 

We've been working on paperwork and travel reservations over the weekend and are getting excited about our trip.  We'll be staying in a small hotel (12 rooms!) that another couple from our agency stayed in just a few weeks ago.  They enjoyed their stay and let us know that the hotel has air conditioning, free wifi and a good restaurant.  Plus it's close to the shopping area and within walking distance of the orphanage. 

Since we'll only be able to visit our little guy for a couple of hours in the morning and a couple of hours in the afternoon, we'll have a lot of free time.  There is a very cool monument (see video) and a fortress (http://bulgariatravel.org/en/object/75/Shumenska_krepost) that we're looking forward to visiting while we are there.


Tuesday, June 4, 2013

And The Winner Is...

I'm happy to announce that our puzzle is complete and it looks great!  I enjoyed working on it and watching it come together.  My dad and grandpa will be framing it for us when they visit later this month.  We had a total of 41 families help out with this fundraiser, and we are very grateful to each one of you for your support.  Thank you so much for helping with a piece of our journey.


As donations were made, we kept track of the piece numbers for each family in a notebook.  For example, the first family purchased 10 pieces, so they had piece numbers 1-10.  Once we were finished with the puzzle, we used www.random.org to choose a number at random.  Our winner who purchased piece number 174 is Missy Bryant.  Congratulations Missy!!  I will contact you shortly about your Amazon gift card.  We are still fundraising with CoupAide.  If you are interested, click on the CoupAide link on the right side of our blog.  We'll be posting an exciting adoption update soon, so stay tuned!!

Saturday, May 18, 2013

Final Puzzle Fundraiser Update

We are extremely grateful to everyone who has donated to our adoption fund to help us bring our little guy home from Bulgaria.  We are so close to making our first trip and are getting very excited.  We love Bulgaria so much and can't wait to get back over there.  Of course we're most excited about meeting our son for the first time.

We have sold 702 puzzle pieces, so there are 298 pieces left.  As a reminder, pieces cost $1 each, and for each $1 donation to our adoption fund you will receive an entry into a drawing for a $50 Amazon gift card.  At the end of our fundraiser, we will draw a winner.  (Donations can be made via PayPal by using the link to your right.)

Once our puzzle has been completed, my Dad and Grandpa will be making a frame for it with wood from my Great-Grandpa's fence.  We plan to hang the puzzle in our playroom as a daily reminder of the support we received to bring home our adorable little boy.

We have decided that we will close this fundraiser on May 31st.  We've had the puzzle on our dining room table for almost two months now, and we really need the space back!  We're praying that we'll receive donations for all 1000 pieces by the end of the month, but if not, we're okay with that.  We will not be posting about this fundraiser again, but we will announce the winner and post a photo of the framed puzzle once it has been completed.  We still have our fundraiser with CoupAide available for those who are interested.  (See link to your right.)

We are anticipating our official referral and travel dates very soon!!  Thanks again to everyone who has supported us in our journey.  Your financial gifts and prayers are much appreciated!!

Friday, May 10, 2013

Happy Birthday Nikolas!!

Nikolas turned four this past week and had a wonderful time celebrating his birthday.  We began the celebration last Saturday by opening presents and having dinner at Benihana.  Nikolas loves eating at Benihana.  Shrimp is one of his favorite foods.  After dinner we came home and had cake.  He had requested a blue cake, so I put some blue food coloring in a white cake mix and we had a blue cake!

Dinner at Benihana
With His Nabi Jr. From
Grandpa and Grandma
Eating Blue Cake

On Sunday we went to Cincinnati to celebrate Orthodox Easter with the Bulgarian Community.  We enjoyed visiting with the Martini family.  Their daughter Emilia also came home from Dobrich in 2011, and she and Nikolas had a great time playing together.  I'm sure he'll be excited to spend a whole weekend chasing her at the reunion next month.
Playing With Emilia

On his birthday he was so excited to take cookies to school to share with his classmates.  After school he had a surprise visit from Grandma, who stopped by to join us for a birthday lunch.  Nikolas has grown so much throughout the last year and we're so happy with the progress that he's made.  

We love you little guy and are so proud of you!!

Saturday, May 4, 2013

New Adoption Fundraiser


We are excited to share an opportunity with you that will help us to fundraise for our adoption as well as benefit those who make a thoughtful contribution in our support. As you all know, we are working hard to bring home a second son from Bulgaria. Our dossier is complete and we should receive our official referral and travel dates soon. We hope to travel in June or July. International adoption is very expensive, so we are fundraising for our travel expenses. We'll need to travel to Bulgaria twice this year and will spend approximately one week in country each time.

In order to alleviate a portion of the cost, we have partnered with Coupaide to jumpstart a fundraising campaign that will give us the chance to reach out to family, friends, friends of friends, and so on. Coupaide offers $50 Restaurant.com certificates for only $20! Half of each sale will go towards our adoption, which has the potential to make a great difference in regard to the overall cost.
Restaurant.com offers certificates for thousands of restaurants in cities all across the United States. These certificates make great gifts (Mother's Day is coming up!), never expire, and can be used immediately upon your donation.

There are two ways you can support our fundraising campaign:
1.) Purchase a Restaurant.com certificate on our personalized Coupaide website.
2.) Forward this e-mail on to friends, family, co-workers, and neighbors – help us to share our story and bring our little boy home!

We thank you for your support and we invite you to check out our campaign!

www.coupaide.com/vanroekel-adoption-fundraiser

We also have around 350 puzzle pieces available in our puzzle fundraiser. The pieces cost $1 each, and each $1 donation gets you an entry into our drawing for a $50 Amazon Gift Card. Donations can be made through the PayPal link to your right. Thanks!!

Saturday, April 27, 2013

Puzzle Fundraiser and Orthopedic Update

We're a little over halfway finished with our puzzle, but we still have 461 puzzle pieces available to be purchased.  We originally set April 30th as our goal date to complete this fundraiser.  With your help, we can still meet our goal!  Pieces cost $1 each, and your name is written on the back of each piece that you purchase.  Once all 1000 pieces have been purchased, we will use a random number generator to draw for a $50 Amazon Gift Card.  This puzzle will be framed and hung in the boys' playroom.  If you've thought about helping us out, now is a great time!!  Donations can be made by using the PayPal link to your right.  If you don't use PayPal, you may also send a check.  We are very grateful to everyone who has supported us on our journey to our son.  It's comforting to know that so many of you care about us and our handsome little boy.  

Nikolas had a great appointment at Riley with his orthopedist this week.  She is very happy with the way his feet have responded to the treatment, and he no longer needs to wear his braces at night.  We are so excited to have this part of process behind us.  We are scheduled to meet with her again in six months to make sure his feet are still doing okay.  We will continue with weekly PT sessions to work on his muscle tone, range of motion and gross motor skills. 

It's hard to believe that Nikolas will be turning four in a little over a week.  He's growing up quickly and is doing great.  We're so lucky that we were chosen to be the parents of such an amazing little boy!!       

Saturday, April 13, 2013

A Finished Dossier


Our dossier is complete and should be delivered to our agency sometime today.  We received our 797C form (Immigration Approval) last Saturday and Nikolas and I made a trip downtown this week to have our remaining dossier documents apostilled.

This is a huge step in our adoption process.  Once our dossier is reviewed by our caseworker, she will send it to Bulgaria to be translated.  Once translated, it will be submitted to the MOJ and we will receive our official referral for the handsome little guy we requested late last year.  We will then be given travel dates to go to Bulgaria to meet him for the first time.  We're so excited to go back to Bulgaria.  It's a beautiful country and we love it there.  We'll be in a different city this time, and we can't wait to do some sightseeing in between visits.  There are some very cool monuments in this city that we can't wait to see.  The photographer in me can't wait to take some amazing photos.  Of course the most important part will be meeting our little boy for the first time and spending time getting to know each other.

Our trip will be expensive, especially since we're going to be travelling later than we had originally hoped for.  We had thought it might be May, but because of several delays, we'll be going over the summer when airfare increases by several hundred dollars per ticket.  We still have 626 puzzle pieces available for purchase in our Puzzle Fundraiser.  You can purchase pieces for $1 each by using the Paypal link to the right.  For each piece you purchase, you name will be entered in a drawing for a $50 Amazon Gift Card.  We're trusting God to help us raise enough money through fundraising to cover the travel expenses for our first trip.  Any help is greatly appreciated!!
 

Sunday, March 31, 2013

This and That


I have several updates, so instead of a few small blogs, I'll just write one long one!

Our puzzle fundraiser is off to a good start.  We've sold 234 pieces of our 1000 piece puzzle, so that means 766 pieces are still available.  The pieces cost $1 each and your name will be written on the back of the pieces that you purchase.  Your name will also be entered into a drawing for a $50 Amazon gift card for each piece purchased (20 pieces = 20 entries).  We will draw for the card once all 1000 pieces have been taken.  To donate to this fundraiser, please use the Paypal link to the right of this post.  If you do not use Paypal, you may also mail a check to our home address.  All proceeds from this fundraiser will go towards our first trip to Bulgaria, which should be coming up in a few months.

We've had some delays, but our adoption plans seem to moving in the right direction now.  We were able to successfully transition to our new agency without too much extra work.  We were fingerprinted for our USCIS approval in late February.  We had filed our I-800a form on a Saturday and received word that our agency was going out of business on Monday, so we had to send our officer an updated home study reflecting the agency change once we had been fingerprinted.  We got pink slipped because our officer didn't like the way one sentence of the approval section of our home study was phrased, so after a quick fix by our social worker, an addendum was notarized and sent to back to him.  We anticipate receiving our approval this week.

I took all of our other Indiana dossier documents to the Secretary of State's office this past week to be apostilled.  Since my birth certificate was issued by the county and not the state, they wouldn't accept it.  I ordered a new one online through the state and hope that it comes quickly.  The website says 4-6 weeks, but the lady at the Secretary of State's office said it typically takes about 10 days.  If' that's the case, it should arrive by the end of the week.  So for those of you in Indiana, be sure to order a birth certificate through the state and not through the county where you were born!  We also had to redo our medical letters due to a notary error, but we already have the new ones in our hands. 

Once our I-800a approval and my birth certificate arrive, I'll head downtown again to have the last four documents apostilled.  Then our completed dossier will be off to Bulgaria after a quick stop at our agency in Washington.  Once in Bulgaria it will be translated and registered, and then we'll wait for the official referral of the the little guy we requested back in November followed by travel dates to go meet him for the first time.

We've been working to get things ready for our new arrival.  His new dresser has already been assembled.  Jason and Nikolas put together little brother's bed this afternoon.  We're hoping that adding a second bed to his room will help Nikolas understand that he's about to have a roommate.  We know his English comprehension is great, but the concept of a little brother might be hard to grasp.  In his most recent receptive language evaluation, Nikolas scored only three points below average for a child his age.  That might not even be entirely accurate since several of things things he refused to do were things he knows and just didn't want to do.  His verbal speech is continuing to develop but is still very delayed for his age.  He now has over 50 words that he uses regularly and adds words daily.  He is also starting to put together two-word phrases. He talks more at home than he does out in public, but we're hoping that will change soon.

His gross motor skills have also been improving nicely.  He met all of his PT goals for the year at school and did an amazing job on his most recent PT skills test.  In the past three months, he has gone from a 21-month level to a 37-month level in one area and from a 25-month level to a 31-month level in another area.  Nikolas loves his physical therapist and works well with her most of the time.  We will repeat the test again in three more months so we can monitor his progress.  His fine motor skills also continue to improve just as quickly.

He's starting to enjoy playing games (like Memory) and likes to color and do art projects.  He likes to play with his cars and toy kitchen, and he loves to read books.  He's very smart and his memory is incredible.  He doesn't seem to forget anything, except for the fact that he's not allowed in my office!!  He is beginning to count and can sometimes name the colors.  Once we master colors and numbers we'll start working on letters.  We see him starting to do more age-appropriate activities all the time.  He's fully potty-trained during the day and is excited to wear big boy underwear.  He normally stays dry all night, but we're not completely there yet.

He's starting to get a little too bossy these days and doesn't like to be told what to do.  We're working hard to control his negative behavior and teaching him to be respectful.  We're going through a phase when he thinks he's in control of every situation, so that's been a little challenging.

Overall he is doing well and continues to grow and learn new things all of the time!



 

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Puzzle Fundraiser

Our dossier is one document away from being completed, and we anticipate receiving that document very soon (hopefully this week!!).  After a quick trip downtown to have everything apostilled, our dossier will be ready to go to Bulgaria.  The dossier will be translated and presented to the MOJ, and then we will wait for the official referral of the little boy to whom we committed back in November. 
 
When we submit our dossier, we also have a pretty big payment due.  In order to raise some of that money, we have purchased a cute 1000 piece puzzle that we will frame and hang in the boys' playroom.  We are selling the pieces for $1 each.  Your name will be written on the back of each puzzle piece that you purchase.  It will be framed with glass covering the back so the names will all be exposed when the puzzle is turned over showing everyone who helped bring him home.

Each $1 donation also gets you an entry in our drawing for a $50 Amazon gift card.  We will draw for the gift card once all 1000 pieces have been purchased.

Donations can be made through Paypal by using the link below.  Please choose Personal and Gift so that no fees are taken out from your payment.  If you don't use Paypal, you may also send us a personal check.  Contact me if you need the mailing address.  Thank you so much for helping us bring our handsome little boy home!!